Introducing the newest member of our family..

Amara Grace Yuhe Forbes!

Yes, I finally named this child! Even upon being presented with the form where I had to write her name on Monday I still hadn't decided. There were a few bouncing around my head and when they placed the form in front of me I panicked, counted to three, and when I put the pen to the paper it just flowed and this is what I wrote. I was waiting for a sign of some sort all along and in the end it was letting the decision go that made it perfect for me and her. It fits her. And Amara means unfading and eternal. Given everything she has been through I think Amara Grace is very fitting. And very mighty!

Monday we went to the Civil Affairs office where all of the other families (I think there were 7 of us total!) met their children that day. I came in later because her orphanage director's train was delayed. It was beautiful to watch all of the other families get to know their children. Amara watched quietly and then the wait got to be too much and she cried for about an hour and a half after the families left. We had arrived in Hefei at midnight the night before so the poor baby was exhausted.

Our guide, Ann (who has been amazing!) was very calm and sweet and tried to distract her and make her happy by reading her book to her. Nothing worked until the director came in and she was instantly quiet and moved over to him. Men seem to calm her. From what I have been told this is normal because she feels she is being disloyal to her "mama" (or nanny) if she allows me or any woman to take care of her. He made her so calm, in fact, that she fell asleep on a chair. Standing up.

We went back to the hotel after this and we all took a much needed 5 hour nap!

Amara officially became a part of the Forbes clan as of yesterday morning! Yesterday she and I also had to travel back to her birth city Huainan City to verify her identity with the local police station and apply for her passport there. Hers is one of only two cities in Anhui province that requires this extra step. With travel it took us 7 hours. We got back at 8 pm last night and crashed hard. Adrian decided to stay at the hotel as he hasn't felt well for a few days. He is starting to feel better now though! But still may be suffering from a case of culture shock... We have been nonstop for a week now and today is a free day for all of us. It feels great to relax. We did some swimming in the kid pool earlier and she loved it. A bit timid at first but by the end she was very relaxed and happy. And I daresay, even showing off a bit!

It is very hot here, in the 90s and oppressively humid. Except for the adoption stuff we are choosing to stick around the hotel. The Hefei Hilton is a very nice hotel and the staff speaks English well. I am hoping to visit Love Without Boundaries Anhui Healing Home tomorrow if it works out and Amara is having a good day. We fly to Guangzhou on Friday. I'm looking forward to the Victory Hotel and Shamian Island.

I'm happy to report that Amara is doing much better with me! She is asking to be picked up, will hug and kiss me if asked, and will hold my hand easily. She doesn't shake her head no to everything I say and will even look at me now when I speak to her. She loves to say "ni hao" to everyone she passes but if they engage in conversation with her she will look to make sure I'm right there. With her becoming more comfortable also comes some testing behaviors. Normal toddler stuff but we are working on being on the same page. I'm not sure but I'm sensing she may have been a little bit spoiled :-) She is starting to get a cold so that might make things a little more difficult in the next few days.  She does sleep soundly through the night which has been a great gift that I hope continues when we get home. But when she has had a good night's sleep watch out! 'Cause this girl runs circles around us. She eats like a bird and only likes fruit and dry corn flakes, and of course, cookies ;-) I've got to find a way to get some weight on this girl! She is tiny! I'm hoping Ava will give her some lessons on how to eat!

Until we post again! 

Will catch up on final days of Beijing and our Great Wall Trip later!

We have YuHe!

We began our 2 hour trip to the edge of Beijing where the New Hope Foster Home is located.  When we walked in the door YuHe came running to greet us, grabbed our maple button cookies and then off she went to give each child and nanny one.  She knows the cookie routine!

Sharing cookies with me and Adrian!

She never really directly acknowledged me though and every question I asked was an emphatic shake of the head "no" response. She was not happy standing next to me for a picture here, as you can see... :-)

Her nannies told her why I was there and when I asked if she understood they told me that she routinely went on rides with the visitors so she was excited to go for a ride. Just be prepared, because she does get car sick. Ah yes, another one with car sickness.  So glad for the heads up on that one! But I was sad because I knew that we weren't just going for a ride. I was taking her from this place that she obviously loves and from the people who have loved her for all but 4 months of her life. I know it is all part of the process, that she couldn't stay there forever, but it was very sad for me.

I got to meet her preschool teacher who gave me a lovely alphabet book she had been working on with little YuHe feet and hand stamps. It is so beautiful and you can tell they worked very hard on it. She told me she did know both English and Mandarin and she knows some basic signs. She knows her ABCs and loves to sing "If you're happy and you know it" and especially loves to shout out the "hooray". We met some of the other children and gave beautiful Jenny her care package from her mom. New Hope is an amazing home and I felt so welcome and a general feeling of happiness there. YuHe is so lucky to have lived there.

And YuHe was the star. Showing off, being a ham and flashing a big grin to all of her caregivers.

When we headed out the door YuHe grabbed my hand and we walked down the walkway together to the car. I was so pleased that things seemed to be going so smoothly. No kicking or screaming. We got in the car and she sat in my lap, crossed her little feet and laid back comfortably. But again, she thinks she's going for a ride and she will be back...

We drove back into the city and she yelled hello out the window to people, waving happily. Yet, every time I talked to her or asked her a question she shook her head no :-)  

We stopped for lunch and she insisted on having a little bit of everything and then soaking it in water on her plate. Angela thinks that she may have added water to her rice and other foods. I'm not going to push her but I tell ya, I really hope she grows out of this habit soon. Ugh, her plate was disgusting and ultimately she didn't eat all that much so it just ended up grossing me out the whole meal. While waiting for the food she kept herself busy folding napkins and...

get this.. when we first got in the car she saw me tuck a plastic bag (umm, you know, the just in case of car sickness bag) under my thigh so it wouldn't fly out of the car. So look at where she was tucking her napkins!

I know, right?! A small victory for this mama- she DOES see me! She's even copying me! Yayy!

She ended up on Adrian's lap back in the car, not sure how that happened..., I'm trying to be her primary caregiver so we can bond... but I lost focus and it really was so cute how she asked to sit on his lap and he put his hands out and she climbed right in. He put his hands around her feet and she laid back and promptly fell right asleep. It was such a precious sight.

When we got back to the room she was all smiles- mostly with Adrian- but continued with shaking her head no every time I spoke to her. 

Then bed time came and yes friends, it was total and complete meltdown. She grieved. And hard. She cried for an hour and a half. Deep sobs from the center of her. She cried "mama" over and over. Her nannies are her "mamas". Right now, I am the imposter. Ugh. I had heard about this kind of grief but I hadn't experienced it before. Ava had a couple of quick cries after we picked her up from the orphanage but nothing like this. This is the difference between an orphanage and a foster home. And while New Hope is sort of a mixture of both she definitely bonded with her nannies and they were like her foster mamas. So I held her and eventually got her ready for bed and Adrian distracted her enough to stop crying. She watched me from the bed as I typed this. Quiet and thoughtful as she drifted off peacefully into sleep.

So while she doesn't particularly like me right now I'm going to dig deep, try not to let it show that I'm really, really bothered by it and fake it until I make it. Let's hope it is a quick process and she determines that I'm not all that bad...because I think she is pretty amazing! Just wait until you meet this kid- when they said she was a pistol they were not joking! She is going to keep us on our toes, that's for sure! And she had Adrian and I at ni hao!

Tomorrow is the Great Wall and the train to Hefei!!

Our first day in Beijing

Last night I managed to scrape up enough motivation to wake Adrian up off the desk and go out to eat. Which was not easy. Adrian says he would rather take a boat back home rather than the plane...I am so with you my friend... So, we walked to a local restaurant and had perch, noodles and dumplings. It was very good. After being in China twice you would think I would be used to it but it is still really strange to see people smoking in restaurants and even putting cigarettes out on the floor or the little boy who stepped out on the stairs a foot outside the restaurant to pee! And the driving! Wow, I don't think I'll ever get used to that! Our taxi almost hit a man on a bike on the way to the hotel yesterday. I yelled out loud and the taxi driver chuckled and was not shaken a bit.

After a pretty good night's rest we got moving early and had a nice breakfast at our hotel, Michael's House. It is really beautiful in here. Situated in the heart of a hutong (old stone authentic Chinese neighborhood) it is like a sanctuary in the center of busy Beijing. It is an old home converted into a hotel and it sits around a courtyard. The courtyard is really beautiful and peaceful. It is a lot like the Double Happiness where we stayed last time Aaron and I traveled almost 2 years ago. Adrian and I have the best room in the house. The "Emperor's Suite". Because we needed a crib in the room on our last night, you know- for our guest of honor - so they upgraded us for free. So nice of them!

Look it's Mexican Tomato Chicken Lays and what?! are those what I think they are? Yes! Plain Lays!

Someone was looking out for me this time!

It was cooler today than yesterday. It was in the 80s and rained a bit which felt great. We met up with Angela here at the hotel after breakfast. Angela is the same guide Aaron and I used. It was wonderful to see her! Her husband drove us today. We started by going to the Lama Temple which was pretty uneventful. I had hoped to actually see the monks praying but they start at 4 am and go again at 7 pm so we missed that. But we did see the largest buddha statue in China- standing at nearly 60 feet.

Adrian and I got our picture taken with the mama lion holding down her cub with one paw. I thought that was symbolic for me and my teenager... 

Then we went on our hutong tour where we rode on rickshaws around the old neighborhoods and along the lake. It started to rain during this but luckily Angela had thought of bringing umbrellas so we put it over our legs and we were good to go. The rain felt great and cooled things off. We had a bit of a rickshaw fender bender with another rickshaw which was cause for some excitement. Think hundreds and hundreds of rickshaws crowded down these streets with pedestrians, cars, dogs and I guess a bump here and there is inevitable. Pure pandemonium I tell ya!

As we were leaving, the rain was falling and the lotus were in full bloom- one week later than usual. A sign for me as my little YuHe's name means "rain on the lotus".

Then we moved on to a hot pot lunch, which consisted of a large pot of two different broths (one spicy hot, one not) and we boiled all kinds of different things in them - lamb, mushrooms, potatoes, bok choy, beef, tofu, fish, noodles. It was delicious, but the spicy hot was mild and was still really darn hot for me. And yes, that is a fork. Don't judge, it was either that or starve because I couldn't get a darn thing from that pot to my bowl. Adrian did pretty good though. Don't know how he learned how to do that.

Then we went to the Temple of Heaven which is where the emperor went to worship. When it was built in the 1600's it was built larger than the Forbidden City because of its religious significance. It was thought that the world was square and the sky was round so it starts out square and the end (or heaven) is circular. This is the echo wall. If you stand on one side and talk the sound with travel hundreds of feet to the other side. I didn't believe it until sure enough, Angela's voice came around and said "can you hear me?" and "I will wait for you on this side". It sounded like she was standing right next to me! That really was so cool! The rest of the park was filled with the smell of Juniper trees and the sound of people playing cards and music. I really enjoyed this. After seeing most of the sights in Beijing now I highly recommend seeing the Summer Palace and the Temple of Heaven.

And I'll wrap it up with a funny sight - as we were walking back to the car from lunch this is the sign we saw outside of the public toilet- hmmm.. I could see how most of these warnings might be necessary except for the fasten your safety belt thing... Obviously it is very dangerous to use the public toilets here so we will steer clear.

Finally, we've made it!

After 24 hours we have finally made it to our hotel! Needless to say we are exhausted. We've been here 10 minutes and this picture pretty much sums it up. 

Our Journey Begins!

Ava and Daddy saw us off this morning at 4:30 am!

We are currently waiting in Wash. DC for our flight to Beijing!

Travel plans are made and we are ready for our baby!

After a long one year, one month and one week of receiving pre-approval to adopt Yuhe we are preparing to leave to add her to the family. In 9 days (July 24th) Adrian and I fly out of Burlington to Washington DC to Beijing where we will spend a couple days touring the sites and visiting Love Without Boundaries, the wonderful foster home where she has spent all but four months of her life. We have been granted the opportunity to pick her up from Beijing on the 27th and travel with her to her birth province, of which I am so grateful. This means she will not be sent back weeks ahead of time to her orphanage to live with strangers, only to be caused more upset to then be placed with us, more strangers. Now her caregivers whom she trusts will explain who I am and why she will be going with me. What a wonderful gift for me and her!

We will be arriving in her birth province, Anhui, on the 28th by 4 hour high speed train. Oh how I hope she is starting to accept me by then! I'm sure she is going to be confused and upset and being stuck on a train is never an easy way to deal with those emotions. And just as I thought before I left to get Ava- I hope she likes me! It will be strange not to have Aaron there to share through the transition as we have always done together. He is my rock and I will miss him a great deal. Adrian will be a huge help in so many ways though and I'm so glad I can share this experience with my oldest child. I just wish I could bring them all! 

On August 2nd we leave Hefei City to go to Guangzhou to finalize with the US Consulate on the 6th. In the meantime I will spend my 38th birthday on August 3rd in China as a mother of 6! We will arrive home on the 8th from Hong Kong after 15 hours and another 7 hour layover, this time in Newark. We will arrive in Burlington at 11:30 pm. Ugh. This is the only time I really do not like living in a small state without a large airport. I'm going to be chomping at the bit to rent a car and just finish the trip myself...

I've decided to announce her name to everyone when I pick her up! And no, I'm still not positive what it is! Although the family has voted and we've narrowed it down to a few favorites.

So a couple last pics from our most recent update before I go. The next time I post will be on our way to China!

My beautiful Yuhe!

  And my beautiful Ava anxiously awaiting her arrival!

  My two spicy but sweet girls! Love it! These two, I have a feeling, are going to be quite the pair! Sisters, and friends for life. I can't wait to bring them together!!

  

We have Travel Approval!

On Tuesday I had a really good feeling that Travel Approval would be coming that day or the next. Sure enough yesterday afternoon I got the call! Looks like travel at the end of the month!